7 Habits of Highly Effective People - Caregivers too!

This morning I was doodling around looking at online news when I noticed this article on the business page.  "Hmmm", I thought, '7 Habits of Highly Effective People' could be something that applied as well to caregivers and people with disabilities.  I have never heard of Stephen Covey, the author of a book with the same name as the article, but I'm going out to buy it.  Sadly, Covey died yesterday from injuries resulting from an earlier bicycle accident. 

These seven tips are as relevant to any good caregiver who is advocating for their ageing parent in a nursing home or for their child with disabilities at school.  But my children would benefit from Covey's wisdom as well. I am trying to nudge Nicholas toward directing his own care, understanding how to advocate for himself (which is challenging given that he is non-speaking).  But Nick is a clever guy and a great communicator. I'm going to make sure that he reads this post.

In honor of renowned author Stephen Covey, who died this morning at age 79, we've decided to succinctly break down the "7 Habits of Highly Effective People" from his all-time best-selling book, which sold 20 million copies. 

Here's the short version, but we recommend you buy his book:

1) Be Proactive

As human beings, we are responsible for our own lives. We have the independent will to make our own choices and decisions, and the responsibility ("the ability to respond") to make the right choices. You have the freedom to choose your own fate and path, so having the independent will, imagination and self-awareness to make the right move makes you a proactive, and not a reactive, person.

2) Begin With The End In Mind

Mental visualization is extremely important. Covey says that all things are created twice: first, the mental conceptualization and visualization and a second physical, actual creation. Becoming your own creator means to plan and visualize what you're going to do and what you're setting out to accomplish and then go out and creating it. Identifying your personal statement and your principles will help.

3) Put First Things First

With your power of independent will, you can create the ending you want to have. Part of that comes with effective time management, which is divided into what is urgent and what is not urgent. If you deal with crises, pressing problems and deadline-driven projects first, your life will be a lot easier.

4) Think Win/Win

If you believe in a better way to accomplish goals that's mutually beneficial to all sides, that's a win/win situation. "All parties feel good about the decision and feel committed to the action plan," Covey wrote. "One person's success is not achieved at the expense or exclusion of the success of others." If you have integrity and maturity, there's no reason win/win situations can't happen all the time.

5) Seek First To Understand, Then To Be Understood

If you're a good listener and you take the time to understand a concept, it will help you convey your opinions, plans and goals to others. It starts with communication and strong listening skills, followed by diagnosing the situation and then communicating your solution to others.

6) Synergize

Synergistic communication, according to Covey, is "opening your mind and heart to new possibilities, new alternatives, new options." This applies to the classroom, the business world and wherever you could apply openness and communication. It's all about building cooperation and trust.

7) Sharpen The Saw

Sometimes you're working so hard on the other six habits that you forget about re-energizing and renewing yourself to sharpen yourself for the tasks in front of you. Some sharpening techniques include exercise and nutrition, reading, planning and writing, service and empathy and commitment, study and meditation.