Sunday 5 February 2017

How Caregiving Changes Us - What Dies, What Grows

Lately I've been thinking a lot about how we change over time as caregivers - the parts of ourselves that die and the new parts that grow. 

What has died in me:

  • An assumption that I will have spontaneity in my life
  • The idea that life would carry on according to my plans
  • The inability to be alone
  • Insecurity in my own abilities to do what I put my mind to
  • Fear of vulnerability
What has grown in me: 
  • The sense of being happy without other people to 'make' me happy
  • Humility in the face of the random nature of what life deals me
  • Confidence in my values and in my advocacy skills
  • Acceptance of my own limitations in keeping my loved ones healthy and safe
  • A growing awareness of my own mortality
What has died in you? What has grown? 

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Anonymous said...

Thank you for your writing it is thought provoking and spot on I am learning…

Anonymous said...

Thank you for sharing ❤️‍🔥