Susan: Fierceness..is that a word? My mom has always been extraordinarily protective and supportive of us. God forbid anyone harm us or dare lay a hand on us, or say anything malicious. She would turn from a gentle, sweet-humoured lady into an assertive tigress in the blink of an eye. I carry forth that same fierceness, it has done me well in advocating for my handicapped child. I don't give up,I don't accept any sort of maliciousness or injustice. I, too, become assertive in the blink of an eye. I'm 46 and fierce, while my mother has mellowed in her golden years. Well, unless you try to mess with one of her brood!!
Anchel: My mom always handled tough situations with grace. A lot of grace.
Jana-Marie: How to question doctors and nurses and not be afraid to ask anything, as well as good hand washing with health issues.
Amina: Faith, my mom taught me that I can try to control my life and my kids' and plan to avoid anything that can harm them. But I won't always succeed. So when I feel hopeless and everything around me is going wrong I should remember that we are all like leaves in the wind, yet we should have faith that we shall never be blown too far to come back. Miss you so much mama.
Brianne: Always see the good in everyone and be your child's biggest strength, voice and cheerleader.
Kim: My mom was an RN and I witnessed her nurse my sister who had severe asthma...that was the foundation, but the fill was when she had the four of us and took on my cousins for a year...being open and doing your best!
Julie: My mother was (is) very nurturing...making sure we had warm pajamas, warm feet, clean, cozy, loved.
Marie: Mother's Day is always emotional and painful for me. My mom is on the schizophrenia spectrum. What I learned from her is to question, cite, fact check, cross reference EVERYTHING: even things I think I know. To accept different neurologies as a part of natural diversity. To forgive myself -- I did not cause her schizophrenia, nor did I cause his autism. To sift through hyperbole and hysteria and find facts. All of these often put me at odds with other parents -- in particular other moms. I have been through this type of grieving already, and am on the other side. I appear like a know-it-all, but I am not. I just had a very different mom, and that changed me forever.
Diana: My Mother told me that there are no guarantees in life. That what comes our way, we have to accept, embrace and do our best. Skip the 'pity parties', everyone in life is dealing with something. She said love unconditionally. She also told me that every day to do three good deeds without expecting anything back; that just in doing those things it would make your day go better. It has helped in parenting and in life in general. this was all said before I became a parent
Karen: Suffering builds character.
Tammy: To always look at the positive side. Things could always be worse than they are.
Alison: I think the biggest lessons she taught me was to be patient and live with grace. I just wish that my natural temperament was more in keeping with her lessons because I find both of these things more than a little challenging. I fail often, but I never stop trying (a lesson from my daddy).
Paula: I learned everything from her. For when nana went blind she moved in with us and her sister too. When grampa got sick out went the dinning room table and in came the hospital bed...This is how I learned.
Beth: My mom wasn't afraid to question a teacher or a doctor or whoever was "in charge." In an era when that just wasn't done. She liked to say "I am the MOM, I am the ultimate authority on this child." and that has helped me greatly when I needed to do the same.
Me: I loved hearing about caregiving lessons passed down from mothers to daughters. And so of course, I've been reflecting about the lessons my own Mom taught me. I've written about my Mom before - she's a very feisty character. For a start, Mom always worked outside our home (she couldn't stand housework and coffee parties) - she was an anomaly in our 1950's neighbourhood! What did I learn from my Mom? I learned self-reliance, a deep sense of appreciation, a passion for making wrongs right. I learned how to really laugh when life throws curve balls and most of all, I learned how to forcefully put one foot in front of the other to keep going, every day.
We all learn lessons of nurturing and caring from our mothers and today I want to celebrate that legacy. Happy Mother's Day, everyone!