Yesterday, I happened upon an article titled '7 Habits of Chronically Unhappy People'. It was number 5 that caught my eye: You Strive to Control Your Life. Now, I'm a very happy person - I'm an optimist by nature. But when I am unhappy, usually there's a control issue in the picture. Here's what makes many caregivers miserable, including me:
I know that my caregiving is fuelled by love and that I do the best I can. So my New Year's resolution is to put aside my aspirations for perfection and trust in myself, in others and the fates to keep my loved ones safe and warm. The business of balancing holding on and letting go is a tough one for caregivers, me included. When life throws curve balls, we beat ourselves up for not anticipating or thwarting disaster. This year, I'm determined to do better at being happy and going with the flow. It's going to be my Plan B starting tomorrow.
Oh, and PS: I'm going to finish the book that I'm writing with Vickie Cammack! (But if curve balls come my way, I'll be OK with a delay in my publication date.)
May all your homes be filled with love, joy and gratitude throughout 2016. Happy New Year!