I am stopped in my tracks by Adam Kahane's book, "Power and Love: A Theory and Practice of Social Change" (Berrett-Koehler Publishers, San Francisco, 2010).
Take this for example, "In order to address our toughest challenges, we must indeed connect, but this is not enough; we must also grow. In other words, we must exercise both love (the drive to unity) and power(the drive to self-realization). If we choose either love or power, we will get stuck in re-creating existing realities, or worse. If we want to create new and better realities - at home, at work, in our communities, in the world - we need to learn how to integrate our love and our power."