Showing posts with label care. Show all posts
Showing posts with label care. Show all posts

Friday, 30 March 2018

A Couple of Things on My Mind

Happy Easter and Chag Sameach (Happy Passover) everyone! 


I've been writing quite a bit recently - here's what's been on my mind. 

1) Can we still be caregivers if our loved ones move into assisted living or long-term care facilities? Can we still 'be a family' if our loved one lives in an institutional setting? 

Here's what I wrote about that: As caregivers, our roles can easily become our identities. So how does a dependent loved one’s move out of the home affect us? Are we still caregivers? What will our new role be and how will we still manage to ‘be a family’ in a setting that is so different from home?

A loved one’s move into assisted living or long-term care does not cancel out family relationships. Caregiver roles change, but we are no less important to a loved one’s well-being because others are now tasked with performing physical care. Change is always challenging and when moving a parent out of the home and into assisted living or long-term care, there are a few considerations that will ease the transition for all.
Read more HERE (including my suggestions based on personal experience). 

2) And out today is something completely different - a meditation on putting care back into health care. I believe we need a social movement of patients and families who INSIST that care be at the center of all we do in health care and even in democracy.  Here's what I co-wrote with my friend Vickie Cammack about prioritizing caring in health care:

Ask any Canadian what “care” means and you will get rapid-fire answers that include words like kindness, love, concern, compassion and attentiveness. We know with inner certainty what it feels like to be cared for. But ask if these qualities come to mind when thinking about experiences in the health care system and you might get a blank stare or even a smirk.
As patients and caregivers we need emotional support, compassion and respect alongside expert analysis and intervention. If we make a collective decision that caring is a nonnegotiable component of healing, there are steps we can take to put caring back into health care.
Systems that are increasingly controlled by money and data place little value on the hard-to-measure caring currency of the heart. Today’s health professionals have little time for hand-holding or explaining procedures to frail elders, frightened cancer patients or worried family members. When Canada’s altruistic front-line medical staff actually manage to defy “efficiencies” and to take time for a more personal approach, their caring actions reduce trauma, ease suffering and contribute to healing.
READ MORE HERE
Enjoy this long weekend, everyone. I hope everyone is able to enjoy the love of family and that all will feel the sense of hope and renewal that this season brings. 


    Sunday, 25 September 2011

    Snakes in the Water

    The trouble with writing a blog is that I always think I need to 'sort things out' in order to formulate a clear message that is worth sharing. In the midst of what feels like chaos, what is clear - what is worth sharing? Well, I realized this morning that I had better ditch that precondition to writing.

    In some ways, the situation is normal in our household. All the optics reflect stability, organization and calm. Our boxes are all unpacked and pictures are hung. Nicholas is loved and very well cared for in his new home.

    But I was awake last night from 2-5am again and my dreams were of giant snakes in our lake water at the cottage. Why do I feel frightened and under threat? I think there are two reasons. One is that I had no idea how I would feel with my boy living apart from us. I know that everything we did was right for him and for us, but at a cellular level, my heart and soul are objecting. My sister Karen suggested that my feelings reminded her of when she stopped breast feeding. Such longing for closeness, yet the power of reason forcing separation. I think it's not a bad analogy, but the difference I feel is that I don't know if Nick is safe because I can't check on him in the next room.

    Nick is doing quite well, but a few days ago, his bloodwork results came back with a toxic tegretol level. Tegretol is one of his medications that stops seizures. Nick's level was far too high and the strain on his liver showed in another very inflated marker. So, of course our wonderful-hero GP advised lowering the dose of tegretol. So far, we've had four nights of the lower dose, but on average, eight grand mal seizures each night. This morning a note from the doctor advises us to increase the medication back to the old dose. Aside from emailing me on a Sunday morning during his holidays, our 'hero of the community' as I call him, managed somehow to get an appointment with the best adult epilepsy specialist on November 1st (the waiting list is usually over a year). Tomorrow, I will call that doctor's office and beg for an earlier appointment.

    Last night, Jim and I attended the annual National Arts Centre gala concert and dinner. Yesterday, I joined the board of the Canadian Centre for Disability Studies. This week I give the AGM keynote to an Ottawa parent group called Families Matter. Now, if only I could sleep. Does anyone know how to get rid of snakes?

    Friday, 10 June 2011

    Innovation and Ethics - Across Sectors

    On the morning of June 6, 2011, I gave the festival keynote address at the FICCDAT conference in Toronto (the Festival of Conferences on Caregiving, Disability, Ageing and Technology). Here is my speech on INNOVATION AND ETHICS.

    Recently, I heard the British social innovator Charles Leadbeater say “Your vantage point determines everything you see”. Let me begin by telling you about my vantage point.
    My name is Donna Thomson and I am a mother and an author. This is my family – my daughter Natalie is 19 and a student at the University of Toronto. My husband, Jim Wright, is the High Commissioner for Canada in the United Kingdom. My son Nicholas is 22 and is disabled with cerebral palsy. Until Nicholas was 18, I provided him with almost all of his nursing care. Thanks to innovations such as a computerised spinal cord pain pump, gastrostomy feeding tube, oxygen saturation monitors together with the loving care of our family, Nicholas has survived. But the social innovation required to sustain Nick in the community has not kept pace with the medical breakthroughs that keep him alive. Nicholas is so high-tech and high maintenance now, that no existing policy, programme or service can easily meet his needs. My vantage point has led me to reflect on how we might nurture innovation across the sectors of science, community and family.
    Nicholas is representative of the first generation of people with disabilities who will outlive their predicted lifespan. Many members of this cohort will even outlive their parents.
    But it’s not only people with disabilities who are surviving – the average life expectancy in Canada is climbing. Babies born today can expect to live nearly 81 years. My mother who lives in Montreal is 89. Of course at that age, she has health problems – in fact she was in the hospital last week, but thankfully, she is better now and home again in her apartment.
    The theme of this conference is "Living Longer and Living Better". I believe that we can do that if we change our collective vantage point.
    Of course experiences can rearrange our vantage points, but so can ideas. The idea that changed my vantage point was something called “The Capability Approach”. Amartya Sen won the Nobel Prize for Economics in 1998 and the Capability Approach is his great idea for rearranging the economist’s vantage point when looking at extreme poverty. He decided that household income and GDP were poor indicators of human and even economic wellbeing. Rather, he proposes that we need to examine whether people have a life that they value and have reason to value. Money is just one factor in a good life. But there are others equally valuable – such as loving relationships and whether or not someone has the resources to convert money into good living, as in the case of disability or old age.
    Looking at the entire range of possibilities for flourishing within circumstances of adversity was what won Sen the Nobel prize. He positions the idea of freedom to imagine, to choose and to act at the heart of his definition of a decent human life.
    Through the generosity of the Printing House Charitable Office and McArthur and Company Publishing, you will find a copy of my book “The Four Walls of My Freedom” in your FICCDAT conference pack. When Nicholas was growing up and battling the effects of severe cerebral palsy, I believed that our struggles with Nick’s disability were private and of no concern or interest to anyone outside our family and friends. But Amartya Sen’s Capability Approach offered me a lens to evaluate my family experience with adversity so that it had relevance to anyone concerned with freedom, active citizenship and caring societies. The research and reflections for my book led me to the conclusion that innovations, policies, programmes and services for those with care needs should be designed according to the principles of “least restrictive and most supportive”.
    So, in the context of my family experience, what does an innovation for our community designed on the principle of “least restrictive, most supportive”, look like? Well, I think it looks like an Ipad application. Nicholas uses a communication app called Proloquo2Go.
    This is an app that was designed by someone with expertise in both computer programming and speech language pathology. But apps are designed to be whatever the user wants them to be.
    The programme is totally customisable, which is least restrictive. But it has open source information sharing about its infinite number of uses and malleability which is most supportive. Inventors of Ipad applications often have no clear idea how their programmes will be used. The developer devolves creative ownership to the user so that ongoing problem solving can occur in a way that is highly responsive and personalised. In social care terms, I do not want a day programme for my son that runs only on Wednesday mornings, for example. Nicholas is bedridden, so couldn't access the programme anyway. For us, personal budgets or care vouchers would offer the flexible benefits of an "app".
    Fundamental change, or radical innovation, nearly always necessitates the turning upside-down of power relationships. The idea of the consumer as co-collaborator is radical in itself. The former Shell scenario planner, now turned social innovator, Adam Kahane, wrote a book called “Love and Power”. Kahane defines power as the drive toward self-realization. And he defines love as the drive toward unity. Deep change, he maintains, calls for a balance of these two forces because systems based on just one of those forces alone will result in stagnation. And this carries the risk of the overall failure to respond to the chaotic changes that are the natural fallout of human relationships.
    The impetus required to reinvent the most deeply embedded habits is called for when the results of ineffective systems are a great enough irritant to the majority, that a general consensus to throw in the towel ensues.
    This happened in Anchorage Alaska when Dr. Doug Eby and his colleagues became so frustrated with the poor outcomes of traditional western medicine that they invented an entirely new blueprint for delivering healthcare.
    The NUKA Model of Care was born out of the realization that the “owner/users”, as their patients are called, held a good deal of the power for achieving decent health outcomes. Particularly in the case of chronic care, it is often patients who decide whether or not to fill a prescription or to take a full course of medical treatment. The NUKA model of care retained a traditional model of ICU care, because in that setting, patients need systems to take over. But Dr. Eby describes the design of traditional health care delivery for chronic conditions as akin to throwing a stone at a target on the wall. In the messy business of dealing with people, he says, it is not a stone you are throwing at the target, but a bird. No matter how hard you throw that bird at the target, it still may veer off in another direction before it hits the wall. Systems that are rooted in the respect for freedom, yet offer support for our failings or changed trajectories, will result in better outcomes.
    So says Dr. Eby and he has the empirical data to prove it.
    Thirty years ago, a group of aging parents from Vancouver began to worry about who would love and care for their adult children with disabilities after the parents died. These mothers and fathers felt desperate at first. Knowing that their offspring were part of the first generation of children with disabilities who would likely outlive their parents, this group decided to do something very radical. They gave up on the idea that government ALONE could be relied upon to love and care for their children. This realisation proved to be a watershed. Now, they had a blank slate with no rigid assumptions in their future planning. They changed their vantage point. They asked “What IS a good life?” This group decided that the key to a good life was loving relationships.
    The next task was to build an organization that could broker, sustain and coordinate loving relationships that would endure for their children’s lifetime. Everyone in the group agreed that their children would be safe with a circle of friends and family who truly loved and cared for them. Planned Lifetime Advocacy Networks, or PLAN, was born. Personal support networks consisting of family, friends, neighbours and community members were organized to offer a natural kind of love, friendship and constancy to vulnerable adults.
    The network would also assume the advocacy and monitoring role that normally falls to parents.
    Groups representing the interests of those with issues related to aging, homelessness, addictions, teen pregnancy, and mental illness began to take notice. They replicated the model of personal support networks for their vulnerable populations. And the unanticipated positive outcomes didn’t stop there.
    Social scientists and contemporary anthropologists were noticing a disturbing trend of isolation and loneliness in healthy populations. Isolation is a well documented negative health determinant. Current demographic trends mean that most people today live far away from their extended families. Many people are not acquainted with their neighbours. But those who participate in supporting a vulnerable individual as part of a small group reported feeling happier themselves. They were less isolated and enjoyed a greater sense of meaning in their lives.
    Canada is experiencing a climate of reduced budgets and increasing costs in health and social care. At the same time, public servants face a daily imperative for accountability, transparency and results-based management.
    I am married to a public servant, so I can attest to that. But fiscal pressure can sometimes provide the impetus for change.
    PLAN is a model that provides an opportunity to shift from patient centred care to network centred care - a shift that front line professionals are beginning to realise holds potential to ease pressure on their budgets, by coordinating support for a vulnerable individual in the community. Accountability and transparency are natural outcomes of support networks which consist of people who share objectives that affect someone they love.
    In these examples of transformational change, the protagonists followed similar steps. They set aside their assumptions about the status quo and prepared themselves to imagine something different - something better. They rearranged their vantage point in order to generate a new set of fundamental objectives. They aligned with others who shared a vested interest in working to a common purpose. And every participant was considered an equal co-creator, regardless of professional qualification. The umbrella organisation had ultimate responsibility for outcomes, but collaborated with users right up to the management level.
    In business terms, all these approaches including the Capability Approach apply the principles of cultural decision-making rather than administrative decision-making.
    These models build in the capacity to bend rules in a way that is responsive to the messy and fluid requirements of those living with challenging circumstances. These models build in authentic collaborative relationships across the spectrum of provider and end user because the authors understand the concept of interdependency.
    My family uses a wide range of services and innovations. I passionately WANT to collaborate with professionals involved in both my son's and my mother's care. And I am not unique in this regard.
    Family members who provide complex care to a loved one develop a myriad of skills and a wealth of knowledge. We want the freedom to use our knowledge and skills LIKE an app - in ways that will give us a life that we value and have reason to value. We want access to innovators so that we can customize our care and support on a continual basis. If we are the bird and we collaborate closely with the person tossing us toward an agreed target on the wall, believe me, we will fly toward that target and we will land there every time if we possibly can.
    Most of us here at the FICCDAT Conference represent cultures and societies that do not suffer from widespread extreme poverty.
    But that doesn’t mean we don’t have important lessons to learn from the slums of India, the favelas of Brazil or the economists who seek to create better lives for those who are very poor. Necessity is the mother of invention. And the worldwide recession, combined with the demographics of aging and an explosion of technological innovation, provide us the seeds of real, positive change if choose to sow them. And that vantage point is full of hope and possibility.
    It is my vantage point. I wish you all a wonderful FICCDAT conference.

    Wednesday, 13 October 2010

    Get Rich by Doing Good

    Last year at the Skoll World Forum for Social Enterprise, I asked fellow Canadian and founder of Trader Media Corporation turned uber-social entrepreneur, whether it was possible to get rich AND do good. "Of course!", he replied. "It just takes longer and you have to work harder".

    In the UK where I live, there is a social enterprise for families who care for a son or daughter with disabilities. It's called " Cool2Care" and it's been creating quite a buzz (see yesterday's Financial Times). I first met the founder of Cool to Care, Phil Conway, three years ago when he was starting his new business. A former IBM marketing executive, Phil is also the father of young son with autism. His own experience trying to get suitable carers from his local government authority drove him to innovate. Cool2Care incentivizes young people to become trained as caregivers, then matches them with families who have been allotted social care funds to pay for respite. Because all the employees of Cool2Care work from home (including its CEO and founder), the agency fees are much less than those of local government or other completely for profit care enterprises. Families are able to make their social care funding go further.

    Cool to Care doesn't exist in Canada, but enterprises like it will surely spring up. Canada is now the only country in the world that boasts a Registered Disability Savings Plan. The RDSP is a tax sheltered savings tool that allows people to accumulate wealth to use for care, housing or leisure. Even if governments cut back social service and health care funding, as was announced in today's Globe and Mail, there will always be a need for good care provision in the community and there will be people who can pay for at least part of it.

    With ageing populations, it is worthwhile for students of business to pay close attention to social enterprises like Cool2Care. As one Canadian social policy analyst sagely remarked, "There's gold in all that silver!"

    Thursday, 7 October 2010

    It IS good to receive!

    Like any other young adult, sometimes Nicholas misbehaves. He swears and if he’s really angry, he will fly into a rage. A flailing arm can give a mother or caregiver a nasty bruise.

    This anger doesn’t flare very often; most of the time, Nicholas is calm, happy and polite. But when his mood gets out control, especially if someone is actually trying to help him or offer treatment, that’s when I launch into “strict mother mode”.

    “Nicholas”, I say very firmly, “You have an important job in life and right now you are not performing it very well. Your job is to ask for help politely and always say thank you. You have just as much responsibility here as your carers, Mister, so you had better apologize for your angry outburst.”

    Now, some people might think that my reaction is unfair. They might believe that because Nicholas is mostly bed-bound and sometimes has difficulty making himself understood because of his very limited speech, that he has a right to show unbridled anger. I disagree. I believe that precisely BECAUSE Nicholas’ physical handicaps require him to receive care, he has an added responsibility to curb his anger and behave in a civil manner.

    Care is a two way street and part of building a new paradigm for active citizenship will have to include some training in “receiving” care. What are the ingredients of playing that role well? How can one get the best out of one’s helpers? Is it ever possible to ask too much of one’s helpers? How and when is it appropriate to show anger or frustration?

    Age does not preclude anyone from enjoying the benefit of understanding the rules of engagement when it comes to receiving care. Children are taught to respect their parents’ efforts to provide for and nurture everyone in the family. Why should this expectation diminish in the case of disability or ageing? 

    Perhaps we need to start with ourselves. The next time I am having difficult day and a friend says “Is there anything I can do?” I plan to answer “Yes”, even if I can’t articulate what kind of help I need. The first step is accepting an offer of help. The second step is saying “Thank you!”
    Educators have managed to incorporate lessons in ethics and self-esteem in the curriculum. I propose we add some learning objectives to our teaching that relate to giving and receiving care. At lunch one day, children could experiment with feeding each other. In a care home, residents could set aside one hour per week to wash the face and hands of the care home staff, or simply listen to their problems. 

    If we believe that relationships are the key to a good life throughout life, it ensues that everyone will at some point give and at other points need to receive care. But the language, good manners and ease of transition from one role to another is key to getting good care into the social water supply.

    Next up: Social acupuncture